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Friendships break ups

       Everybody is talking about breakups in relationships, but no one is talking about breakups between friends. I realized this when, after my best friend and I "broke up," I wanted to watch a YouTube video on this topic. But when I tried to search for it, I couldn’t find anything. I clearly remember not really understanding it, because there are hundreds of videos about romantic breakups, but none about breaking up between friends.

Friendships can be one of the most beautiful and powerful connections between people, but they can also be the most painful. Losing a friend can be much more grievous than a breakup because, in our teenage years and in our twenties, friends are the most important parts of our lives. We can’t talk about everything with our parents because they can’t understand us the way friends can—they’re not the same age as we are. And that’s how it should be. We find friends, and if we’re lucky, we find a friend for life at an early age. But most of our friends are just with us for a season of our lives.

And that's the key. We may have only one or two true best friends. Many others are just here for this phase of our lives. This is the only thing to keep in mind when we stop talking to them or miss them. If you tried your best, if you tried to make the friendship work but it doesn’t anymore… you have to let it go.

Friendships are meant to be easy. They are meant to be positive—a healthy relationship between people with the same mentality. If it’s not like that and you find it difficult, and you know it won’t work, you have to let it go. Even if it’s your childhood friend, even if it’s your best friend, even if it’s your classmate. You can’t force something because, in the end, it will destroy you.

In my opinion, losing a friend is harder than losing a partner. The longer the friendship, the harder it is to let go. You loved them. Not the same way as your partner, not the same as your family, but you loved them. Losing someone you loved is never easy—it never was, and it never will be easy. But, as with everything in life, the pain fades away, and maybe years later you will be thankful for that person because every person in your life teaches you something.

The only thing you should focus on is that it will get better. That person wasn’t meant to be in your life forever. They taught you something important, and you made lots of memories together. I’m sure you will find your people, your friends, who will make your life more beautiful and easier.

What should I do after a breakup?

  1. Examine what the problem was and what you should correct in yourself.
  2. Write down your feelings or talk about it. It will help, I promise.
  3. Let it go. It might take time, but don't worry, it will go away.
  4. Try to find people with the same mentality.
  5. Don’t be rude to your ex-friend, even if they did something unforgivable. Don’t be like them hating just drains your energy.

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